- Contrary to the title of my blog, I would never let my chopsticks "wander" at the dinner table. Even appearing to choose the choicest morsel for yourself is rude.
- Eat whatever is served. If you're hungry, eat. But never ask what's for dinner and determine whether or not you're eating based on what's being served.
- Always serve adults with two hands. Let the oldest person eat first.
- Never arrive at a dinner party empty-handed.
- Meals are always shared family-style.
Friday, December 01, 2006
Food, Family, and Etiquette
My cousin had a conference near my house and came to spend the night Wednesday. Though she had just gotten off work and was starving when she called, she saved her belly to have dinner with me (Chili's three half-racks of babyback ribs). And on Thursday after her conference was over, she came back to my house and we had dinner again (Top Thai Restaurant in San Dimas for green curry and pad kee mao) before she went home. My family bonds through food. Sure we do other things together, but our primary mode of bonding is centered around food. My cousins who shared one bowl of ramen and a ground chicken bowl between the two of them? They had already eaten at home before inviting me out to eat again. When I'm visiting my parents, I catch up with friends during the day or late at night but I always come home for dinner with mom and dad. Thus, dinner equates to family time. It was at the dinner table that my mom drummed in certain manners.